It’s well-known in the Narcissism Recovery community that a Narcissist requires continual “Narcissistic Supply” from other people. This energy comes in visible forms such as time, attention, effort, and sacrifice. You may have read countless material describing what narcissistic supply is, but in this video, you will learn 5 laws of narcissistic supply that will make everything clear.
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Let’s break this down and look at the Narcissist a bit more closely.
1. The Narcissist lacks life energy.
In other words, a Narcissist is dependent on other people for a form of energy that they have (and can give) but the Narcissist lacks. Thus, the Narcissist needs one or more human targets as sources of supply.
Without this energetic “supply,” the Narcissist experiences such emotions as boredom, irritability, panic, and/or rage. These resemble withdrawal symptoms, so it seems that Narcissists depend on energy received from other people.
What is this energy?
It isn’t electricity. It isn’t food or nutrition. It isn’t sunlight or microwaves or gravitation. “Narcissistic supply” is another form of energy, one which can be exchanged between people and used in the process of human living. It can also be used up, hence the Narcissist’s continual demands for it.
I call it “life energy”.
2. Life energy is “soul”.
Non-Narcissists don’t require this energy from others because we produce it within ourselves and use it for ourselves, sort of like having rechargeable batteries. We use this “life energy” to live and thrive as human beings. We also use the excess of it, beyond what we need for ourselves, as a sort of fuel to sustain our relationships.
If we run low on life energy, we have to replenish it by resting or “recharging” in some way. This is called “taking care of you.” We all need life energy just as we need food, and–also like food–we don’t have an unlimited supply of it. (Just ask anyone who has raised children.)
If we don’t have enough of this energy to give, our relationships suffer. When we continually give life energy to a Narcissist (or anyone else) who continually demands it, the giving of it drains us. Our supply becomes the Narcissist’s supply. Eventually, our relationships and even our health can fail because our life energy, our vitality, is drained.
This is how Narcissists weaken their targets, invisibly, from the inside out.
What is this “life energy” that is not electricity or food; can take the form of time, attention, or effort; can be depleted in the process of sustaining human life, health, and relationships; and can be shared or exchanged with others?
Basically, it’s emotional energy.
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