My Partner is NOT my Father

Relationships enable us to remember. To grow and evolve. Sometimes we need to take a few steps back and do some Self - Evaluation work.

One of the things I needed to take note off and remember was that my partner is not my Father.

We project so much of our pain, our emptiness and brokenness into relationships. There is a need for healing. Healing from a void that our Fathers weren't able to fill. Simply because many of them didn't know how.

They too didn't know how to love by expressing something as simple as affection. They never got it too so how would they know.

Healing our childhood wounds.

The inner child still cries through us. We just project those tears of pain by telling our partners what to do, how to do it, controlling them to be what we want them to be to us all because the first men in our lives left us broken hearted.
So we force them to fill up the shoes that our Fathers left without even being aware of this.

This happens to many of us. I've had to acknowledge this.
To forgive and understand myself.

I am still in healing. I still speak to my father even though he is on the other side. But I know that we are both healing together and he is being there for me even now...the best way he knows he can.

Father